# 9
Alice:
"Reader, are you ready to enlighten me with your thoughts on the subject that I left you with to mull over? Do, men and women come to the same conclusions, only in a different thought process? Men, in a straight line logical way, and women, in a "semi-logical" way? I ask this with many other issues taken into account, of course...."
Reader:
"I have not really had the time to answer your first question, and NOW you inject more information to consider! I have found, in my relationships with women, whether as a friend, or on a more personal level, that it is so frustrating to try and figure out where women come up with the things they do... It seems to take so long, just to get a SIMPLE question answered... So, in a round about way, I am saying that you are correct. Women and men do come to their answers in a completely different process..."
Alice:
As a woman, I would like to add here that even though we do not come up with our answers in the same manner, a lot of time is taken, not only with logic, but also in our thought processes. It is laced in with what makes us female. If we just came up with the same answers, in the same manner, would not life be boring and humdrum! We do create quite a CHALLENGE for you, don't we?"
Reader:
I also need to inject more into todays conversation, concerning how much of the time men and women come to the same conclusions... I rarely find women that come to the same conclusions as me, plus, my male friends agree.

#10
Alice:
"Reader2, are you ready to proceed further into the deep issues that are troubling you? I hope so, for I have been looking forward to this and many more conversations with you. How are you coming with sweeping out the dust, and knocking some of the cobwebs loose, are you there yet?"

Reader2:
"This has been more than a tough one, it has been like pulling my own teeth. Things that have been buried for many, many years are so hard to move to the surface. I buried those thoughts deep in a secret file, believing it was for my protection. Or at least, telling myself that it was for my protection... Now, since you and I are bringing them out for examination, I realize that trying to loose them did far more harm than good. Even right at this moment, I am battling with the issue of, do I really want the whole world to know what makes me, me? Plus, do I really know who I am, myself??? Maybe these are what I should seek the answers to first?"

Alice:
"Well, I will say, that you got right after it and did not back down, even though, you fully understand that this is not going to be easy or at all comfortable. I do, also, fully acknowledge that you have the foresight and strength to see this through. In the final stages of this discussion you will know the real you. I 100 percent believe you already do, yet hide that too from yourself. Now, we're getting somewhere...."

#11
Reader:
"Alice, I can unequivocally agree with you, women do give us guys quite a challenge! Maybe, that is really the true essence of it. It, being the excitement of trying to figure out each new quirk, each new thought process, each new sexual drive, and all of those desires that makes each individual who they are?"

Alice:
" I was hoping that you would get to the basis of my question. That all is a challenge no matter what it has to deal with. That is what makes life so exciting and refreshing! We as women, like...... Well, I really do not want to give away too much, do I?"

Reader:
There's another thing...

Alice:
What other thing?!!

Reader:
"The way you women taunt us guys... I get into this discussion with you to find out more about women, and then you say something like, "Well, I do not want to give away too much, do I?" What makes you women do that to us and what is this big secret that you don't want us guys in on???"

Alice:
"No comment...."

Reader:
"I guess this is probably why even Dr. Freud could not figure out, what women really want... Can we men EVER dare to hope that we will get even a slight glimpse?!!!"

#12
"Recently, I began talking to another reader who I'll call Reader3. Below are the beginnings of that conversation. Read on to see what he has to say.
Alice

Alice:
"Glad to have another person join in or conversation, welcome Reader3!"
Reader3:
"Thank you Alice, I really need someone to talk to."
Alice:
"Why such a need?"
Reader3:
"I have almost no real friends and don't want to burden my family any more than I already have over the years."
Alice:
"Over the years, that sounds serious?"
Reader3:
"Yes, it has been something I have struggled with for most of my life. It has effected every aspect of my life and made it hard for those who care about me."
Alice:
"In what way has it been hard for your loved ones?"
Reader3:
"Mostly they are confused by my actions and frustrated that they are not able to help me in a lasting way. You see, they hurt when I hurt and they know how I long for the ability to stand solidly on my own two feet."
Alice:
"You don't feel very solid? What, to you, would make you solid?"
Reader3:
"That is what I hope to find by talking this out. It seems to be layers and layers of things that have added up for many years."
Alice:
"What do you think of when you think of that first layer and when did it happen?"
Reader3:
"I think of my first social interactions and that was when I started elementary school. Not so much Kindergarten but in First Grade. I could sight some things about Kindergarten but it really got going when we had bigger learning assignments in First Grade. The kinds where you have to stand up in class or approach the blackboard."
Alice:
"It doesn't sound like you mean normal childhood stage fright?"
Reader3:
"No, I had trouble learning and the nearest way I know to describe the condition as is dyslexia. Although, when looking up dyslexia in a number of medical dictionaries the definitions only vaguely touch on what I experience. I also have symptoms of autism but there again the medical definitions are vague. I find that, on its own, to be very disturbing. The mere fact that the medical world still uses vaguely worded definitions and Dark Age treatments that are no more than stabs in the dark. Is this not the 21st century? Sorry, but this is a large part of why I am the way I am. No real help is available from those who profess to be in the know."

"To be continued..."
Alice

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